This is going to be different from any other relationship you’ve had in the past. Keep in mind that this guy can’t be carefree – he has to provide for his children and be available whenever they need him.However, you can rest assured that a man who has taken the responsibility of caring for his child/children has good qualities like commitment, responsibility, and love for his kids.You may very well be enjoying a casual, lively social life with a person who is fun to be around, but with whom you simply don't imagine a future.This is critical, because once you introduce children, you leave them vulnerable to becoming attached.Keep the relationship between the two of you, and when marriage becomes a consideration, have him introduce you to the kids.Think of it from a child’s perspective: Dad has a new girlfriend for a few months and then she goes away.
Depending on their background, kids may be fearful of a newcomer in their midst. Simply understand these feelings may exist and that it is not about you. Children can add a lot of delight and gratification to a relationship.
This is important because you cannot separate the parent from the children. Often, the attention, time and resources that a parent devotes to his/her children can make one feel jealous or resentful. Single parents are likely to set basic boundaries with regards to their children. Sometimes when we meet the kids we want to make a good impression.
If you are dating a parent, their children will be part of the picture at some point. Are you self-assured and independent enough to accept that the children of your date will be the priority? These boundaries can range from time devoted to children, to dietary/nutrition concerns, to when late night guests are acceptable. If you are dating a single parent and your relationship has progressed to the point where you spend time together with the kids, notice how your date parents, the kids’ behaviors, and the family culture. Maybe we try too hard: excessively friendly, overly generous, or uncomfortably upbeat. It is natural that children may be somewhat leery of a new person in the mix.
In fact, some guys give up because they find it so daunting.
While it’s true that there are additional challenges when it comes to dating when you have children, there’s no reason you can’t have a vibrant and exciting social life.