So, that sounds good to you but how often should we do that?Hmm…great question but ultimately that is up to you both. Studies suggest that married couples who invest in their relationship by having at least one date night per week experience: a significant increase in happiness, relationship satisfaction, communication, and sexual satisfaction by about 350% or 3.5 times higher than couples who aren’t regularly dating. By doing this one activity regularly, it WILL impact the quality of your marriage. You can read all about this and more from a sample portion of their book, ““. If your marriage is important, then both of you must put a high value on dating your spouse. They concluded this from scientific research done by: the Survey of Marital Generosity (SMG), a national study of more than 1,600 married couples aged eighteen to fifty-five that was conducted in 20 by the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia.You may forget about the downside of being alone, the feelings of loneliness, the uncertainty about the future.You just remember when your time was your own and you never had to compromise and be accountable to anybody.Similarly, the married respondents in my well-educated sample () indicated that they spent an average of 3.6 years dating their husbands before committing to marriage.This is much longer than the 2 year relationship “trial period” suggested by some theorists.
I suppose the relatively high average age of marriage in the sample would explain a curious personal experience that I once had that has never been repeated at other weddings I’ve attended.
It takes more than love and determination to make a marriage work.
People in successful marriages know that they have to compromise, accept a certain loss of independence, sacrifice some of their goals and, more often than not, put the other person first.
The way I like to look at it is this: when you are intentional about dating your spouse, you say to your spouse…your kids…your family…your friends…and everyone else, that your marriage is important and you are taking time to water that garden.
This really is important and you must be intentional because life will always find a way to conflict with this activity.